by Stashia Jeanette

The Power of Forgiveness: A Rite of Passage to Freedom

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Welcome back to Ascension With Vii, and thank you for being here. In this solo episode, we dive into one of the most misunderstood, soul-stretching, ego-checking, heart-opening parts of the human journey: forgiveness.

Now, before you roll your eyes and say, “I already forgave them,” let’s keep it real — forgiveness is not a checkbox. It’s not a cute Instagram quote. It’s not something you declare once and never revisit. Forgiveness is a process. A purging. A portal. And most importantly — it’s about you. Not them.

What Forgiveness Really Means

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you condone their actions. It means you’re no longer willing to let their actions anchor you in the past. It means choosing liberation over bitterness. And sometimes, the hardest person to forgive is not them — it’s you.

Especially when you’ve spent time in the abyss — the trenches, the survival states, the versions of yourself you’d rather forget. When you’re clawing your way out of your personal hell, it’s easy to carry shame, regret, and guilt like a second skin. But here’s the truth: you did what you had to do to survive with the bandwidth and tools you had at the time.

My Three Client Archetypes — and Their Common Wound

Over the years, I’ve worked with three recurring soul groups:

  1. High-achieving, ultra-successful individuals who traded their soul growth for material success.
  2. Those who’ve lived on Demon Time, doing the most, knowing better but not yet ready to choose better.
  3. People who’ve had a rough, unjust life, constantly pulled into survival mode through no fault of their own.

Despite their differences, the core wound is the same: a survival instinct that left no room for softness, self-forgiveness, or presence.

Self-Forgiveness: The Hardest Medicine to Swallow

Let me tell you — forgiving myself was harder than forgiving anybody else. We are hardest on ourselves, and the more spiritual awareness we gain, the more judgment we heap onto our past selves. That’s backwards.

Acknowledgment must come first. Forgiveness follows. You can’t skip steps. There’s no cheating in this process. It’s soul reclamation. Because guess what? Your past version is not who you are now.

The only time that exists is now. And if you’re anchoring into timelines that no longer exist — timelines you’ve already outgrown — you’re self-sabotaging the expansion your soul is begging you to step into.

Accountability Isn’t Just for the Good Times

Let’s make something clear:
You don’t only get to take accountability when your life looks good on paper.
You must be just as accountable for the mess.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
When things are raggedy outside, you’ve got to go within.
When things are aligned and flowing? Yup, you did that. Give yourself your flowers.

Let Go or Be Dragged

The longer you carry the dead weight of resentment, shame, or unspoken truths, the heavier your energetic load becomes. And we’re in an era now where we’re being asked to step into our light bodies. To elevate. To ascend. You can’t do that when you’re anchored to the past.

So ask yourself: What am I still carrying that’s not mine anymore?
Do a body scan. Do a soul scan.

Is there tension in your shoulders? Resentment in your heart? Regret in your belly? Rage in your throat?
Name it. Feel it. Then give yourself the permission to let it go.

You Are the Most Important Project You’ll Ever Work On

People pour everything into businesses, partnerships, and external achievements — while completely abandoning themselves. But the real glow-up? It starts with how you treat you. The care, attention, and intention you give to your own growth is what reflects back into the world.

Be Present. Speak Up. Love Fully.

Live each day like it’s your last — not in a reckless way, but in a fully alive way.
Tell the people you love that you love them.
If you like someone, say it. If you’re holding back a truth? Speak it. Vulnerability isn’t optional anymore. It’s the price of admission for real connection.

Stop fantasizing about people’s potential. See them where they are. Accept them. Let them grow into their next version on their own timeline.

And please — stop abandoning yourself to fix, save, or heal someone who hasn’t chosen growth yet.

Final Words

You are not who you used to be. You are here. You are growing. You are expanding.

So let it go. Let it all go.

Not because they deserve your forgiveness.
Because you deserve your freedom.

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With love & truth,
Vii

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